Basic tips about how to give good wedding toasts and speeches
Hi. I’m Aaron Wheeler. I work for a large fortune 500 corparation. Because of the nature of my work, I have to give speeches all the time. Over the past four 3 years , I’ve been invited to attend several black tie events for work , as well as to speek about six times at my friend’s and coworkers weddings. People ask me all the time if I can tell them how to give a knock-out wedding speech. Eventually, after my friends kept telling me “you need to write a book on this topic or something”, they eventually me to put together a web site. I called their bluff, and here you are. I hope to give you the best of the tips and tricks I’ve learned from years of giving speeches. Hopefully they will help you get ready for any big days like these in the future.
The Wedding Toast
You might end up feeling surprised when you think of how simple a toast seems to give when you are thinkning about it, but how tough it really is when it’s time to go to it. That’s what we’ll try to avoid, so you can have the best chance for a great toast possible. Whenever this sort of thing comes up when I’m talking to people, most of them say “it’s nothing. I can give toast like nobody’s business,” which most people can, whether they know it or not, but you DO need to practice first. You actually can do a great toast off the top of your head, and I advise that you do if you think you’re up to it , but even those of us who are more experienced in front of a crowd need to know that we have to at least practice by running the basic structure of our toast through in our heads before hand. I know a lot of people who admit that they put off practice until the night of the toast, likely in the car on their way to the event. What makes people procrastinate like this? Fear.
A toast is like a hello and farewell wrapped into the same little mini-speech. It’s usually given when times are [good | at the best of times], and it lets everyone there know that there’s something in the person you’re toasting that you appreciate. Most are kind of a send-off into the future, after whatever special event of today is over, and send off the person with the best of luck.
Q: What if they don’t laugh?
A: You shouldn’t necessarily need them to. Some people make their toast a funny thing, but get nervous that the crowd won’t see it as such. If you’re not the most experienced public speaker in the world, my advice is not to try to shoot for the stars when it comes to being funny. Something that comes from the heart will be much more appreciated and memorable . Only try to make it really funny if you’re completely okay with the idea, thanks to your past experience, or it’s your normal personality.
Here’s my formula for a great toast: It’s all of these 3 things wrapped together in this order: a look back at good times together, a look to the future that is bright, and a tribute to good luck. To see a detailed breakdown of the above, come see my site on Wedding Toasts and Speeches.