If you, the groom, are just like most of us regular folk, public speaking is not something you look forward to. In fact, you probably make an effort to avoid public gatherings. Unfortunately, this is one of those occasions from which you can’t hide.

The good news is, putting together your groom speech need not be as challenging as it might seem at first. That is, as long as you are not tempted to bolster your nerves with too much punch. Be certain you do not drink too much alcohol until you are back safely in your seat, having delivered your speech.

Keep the following main point in mind:

Your groom speech focuses on thanking those who have helped you and your new bride get to this point in your lives. You will generally speak after the bride’s father.

Here are six points to help you get started:

1. Express Thanks to the bride’s mother and father for raising such a beautiful daughter and entrusting her to your care. Also, thank them for any help they have provided for the wedding and for your new life together.

2. Thank your own mother and father for taking care of you and being there for you throughout your life and for any contribution they have made to the wedding and helping you to get started in married life.

It is not a good idea to make fun of either your bride’s parents or your parents during a wedding speech unless you clear it with them before hand. Even the most easy going people may not take kindly to being the brunt of a joke on this occasion.

3. Of course, you cannot proceed any further in your speech without thanking your bride. Thank her for being the beautiful person she is, and point out some of her best qualities. Tell her how much you appreciate her trust in you and her love for you; that you consider yourself a very lucky man. Once again, be sweet and don’t make fun of your bride to get a laugh. You haven’t got to the honeymoon yet.

4. Next it’s time to say something about your best man. Generally, it should be safe to make some jokes about him. So, save your need for laughs until you get to him. Quite often the groom’s speech includes some humorous anecdotes about the best man and or groomsmen, and this can go down very well.

5. The maid of honor, bride’s maids, and flower girls are next on the list to be thanked. Mention how lovely they look and how much easier they made the day for your new wife.

6. After you have thanked all these people for contributing to your wedding and to your life, you can mention anyone else who is important to you or your bride: Siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents, and friends can be mentioned at this time. You may also include any personal messages you would like to give.

When you have finished your speech, you can hand the proceedings back over to the master of ceremonies, if you have one. The best man’s speech follows the groom speech. Now you can go and have that drink.

One of the things that may get you to draw a blank is the first few sentences of your speech. Coming up with your opening remarks is one of the most difficult pieces of writing a best man wedding speech.

Your opening statement is a critical part of your speech because this is where you set the tone of your speech. Some people would create a great excitement over their opening comments and begin with an shocking joke, or a smart comment or anything that can get the attention of the guests. You might want to save this kind of context for later. Good opening comments should be simple, sincere and suitable. Keep in mind that it’s not your day, so the focus to should be on the newly wed couple, not on yourself

You may want to start your opening remarks with a respectful tone and slowly insert in some funny quotes or stories that you might want to share. Be sure to keep your poems safe and clean as not to upset the couple or any of the guests that are at the wedding. Naturally, if you begin your best man speech with a sincere tone, then you should end it with the same effect. You should end your speech with polite comments and congratulatory words. This is often referred to as the ‘sandwich technique’ where you can stuff funny antics inside the speech itself and begin and end with a sincere tone.

There are a number of things that you can position in your opening remarks. Firstly, you need to introduce yourself so that the entire audience would get to know you. This way, the audience can appreciate what you say Next, you might want to add in your congratulations and well wishes to the happy newly wed couple. You can also add in your appreciation for having the chance to get up in front of such a wonderful crowd and give a toast as the best man of the event. 

In giving your best man speech, it is important that you stand secure. You will only be able to do this if you are ready for your little speech. This is why you should develop a rough draft of your speech and practice delivering it days before the event. Give special attention to your opening statements. Reherse delivering it in front of the mirror so you are aware if you get the tone that you want or not.

Finally, if you yet having a tough time coming up with the first few sentences of your opening statements, you can search on the internet and search for best man speech examples. This would give you an idea on how you can write your own speech. There are also some best man speech quotes that you can find on the internet that can greatly help you in creating your own best man speech. Use these resources as guidelines and you can be off to a wonderful start in creating a great best man speech!