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A Prenuptial Contract – Get One

Thursday, May 14th, 2009

Guide to prenuptual agreements

A prenuptial agreement, antenuptial agreement, or premarital agreement, commonly abbreviated to prenup or prenupt, is a contract entered into prior to marriage or civil union by the people intending to marry. Usually a prenup provides for division of property and spousal support in the event of a divorce.

In theory, prenuptial agreements set out before marriage how the wealth and assets of both parties will be split in the event that the relationship goes pear-shaped further down the line.

Many countries, including Canada (Quebec), France, Italy, and Germany, have matrimonial regimes, in addition to, or some cases, in lieu of prenuptial agreements.

As of 2007, England and Wales do not enforce prenuptial agreements, but agreements may be upheld at the judge’s discretion. These countries also do not have a provision for marital regimes.  But this is all changing.  There has been a “sea change”

The Crossley case  in the UK now highlights the fact that premarital agreements are being recognised in the English courts and, if properly constituted, are difficult to wriggle out of.  In the past prenups were perhaps entered into in the hope, rather than belief, that they would be binding. Now they offer real protection.

Courts “are looking closely at prenuptial agreements and want good reasons — such as children or significant changes in a person’s circumstances — to depart from them”.

So who should go for a prenup? They are suitable for a wide range of people, including:-

  • second-time rounders, in their forties and fifties, who want to provide fully for children of the first marriage and protect their own assets (sometimes against gold-digging former husbands when they meet someone wealthy)
  • professionals, young City entrepreneurs in their twenties making money through work, skill and some luck 
  • business men and women used to binding agreements in their working lives
  • international clients used to prenups in their home jurisdiction
  • gay and lesbian clients who may have cohabited for years and now enter civil partnerships
  • and those not necessarily “mega-wealthy” who favours “self-determination” and taking control of how financial issues might be resolved on divorce.

Lord Justice Thorpe, giving judgment in the Crossley case, suggested that it was time to look at legislation to make them enforeceable in law, given the lack of a marital property regime in England as found on the Continent. 

With hundreds of millions of dollars at stake, Hollywood stars are not inclined to risk it all on what might be a very short and misguided marriage followed by a very expensive divorce.

Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas; Liz Taylor and Larry Fortensky, Jane Fonda and Ted Turner are just a few of the A-list couples who have demanded prenuptial contracts.

Of course it is not only Hollywood stars who need to think about prenuptial contracts – Paul McCartney and Heather Mills famously signed no prenuptial agreement and rumours are rife that this acrimonious split could potentially see Ms Mills walk away with over £100m from a court settlement.

In January 2008, the wedding of a billionaire’s daughter was called off at the last minute because of a change to the prenuptial agreement.

Miss Fisher, 28, is the lawyer-daughter of American hotel tycoon Jeff Fisher.  Mr Bailer, 33, is a Wall Street trader, wealthy in his own right, but not in the same league as Mr Fisher who last year sold his Innkeepers hotel chain for nearly £1 billion.  They had been dating for three years and engaged for 18 months.

The bride and groom along with 300 guests were left in limbo as the society wedding of the season ground to a halt.  In the end, the two families ended up having separate parties in adjoining hotels to ‘celebrate’ the wedding that never happened.

Late in the evening, the bride, Alexandra Fisher, put in a brief, tearful appearance among her family, dressed in black.  Meanwhile, the groom, Josh Bailer, glumly nursed a drink with his best man and his 80 guests.

Three days before the wedding, the couple happily signed a prenuptial contract in which it was agreed that if the marriage failed, both sides would walk away with no alimony payments.

But on the wedding day, Mr Bailer’s father, Joe, said Mr Fisher demanded that Josh sign a last-minute amendment agreeing to pay Alexandra alimony, no matter how much she inherits from her dad.

Joe Bailer, 65, said: “We’re middle-class people with middle-class values. We came to Palm Beach for what was supposed to be the best day in the lives of two human beings, and ended up with two full days of crass negotiations for a prenuptial agreement.

“It was like a business transaction. That attitude is foreign to us. There was such urgency on Fisher’s part, it bordered on desperation.”

So before you get married get up to date legal advice from a specialist family lawyer.  Get it all sorted and nailed down before last minute stress sets in. 

Most foreign couples getting married in France need to have a civil ceremony in their home country first and then their religious ceremony in France as the legal requirements for a civil wedding in France are exhaustive – 6 months (not 40 days as it was before thank you Sarkosy) residency requirement with proof of address and they now check it too.  Most guests at a french destination wedding do not even know that the ceremony is not a civil ceremony.  Sorting out a  pre-nup agreement before you leave home does not detract from a fairytale wedding in France.  If you are not mega wealthy you way want to consider a french wedding package at a romantic castle that will not break the bank.

 

 

 

What you need to know to Select a Fabulous Videographer for your Wedding

Saturday, May 2nd, 2009

Inspirational Wedding Video

 The majority of couples who choose not to hire a wedding videographer will wish they had done so afterwards.  

Now you have selected a wedding venue, and we hope you selected a beautiful wedding castle you need to pick a wedding videographer to capture those memories. 

Video production is one of the most sought after services of today. This kind of services has done well for wedding celebrations.

The digital camera is not the only thing that preserves moments. The way you hold your hands together, the kiss after being hailed as husband and wife, the wearing of the rings and almost every part of the celebration will not be missed.

Modern technology has advanced the quality of the equipment dramatically and the end product is often a lavish, well edited and professional product that you will be both proud of and keen to view again and again.

Almost as important as the camera and the format is how good the videographer is. Its also nice to see sample here they are at “just the right place at just the right time” to catch a magical moment.

A few good samples should be enough to get a sense of their style and professionalism. Be especially aware of companies that over-use effects – this can often be to compensate for poor camerawork and stylistically your video could look very dated within a few years.

 If you are satisfied with the samples you see online, the next thing to do is ask for a sample DVD.

Any reputable videographer will be able to send you at least 2 complete  for your appraisal that are relevant to your type of event.

The commonest weakness in ‘home video’ is the cameraperson constantly panning the camera left to right and back again, zooming in and out, all in one shot, from one location. Zooming and panning should be very rarely used. Instead ask them to take a series of static shots, from a variety of angles (following the 30° rule) and without breaking the 180° rule.

You must read the small print of the contract in order to determine exactly what you will get for your cash as this does vary greatly, but on the whole you can expect the presence of a skilled and qualified videographer at your ceremony and your Reception, with a fully edited and professional movie supplied on the format of your choice.

It is also important to know what format the video will be shot in. You want to see something like Hi8, MiniDV, DV, or even digitally on a hard drive or other mobile storage device.

Ask the Videographer if they are covered for Public Liability Insurance and, if possible, ask to see their policy. They should also have the appropriate copyright licences to record the wedding service and any other copyright material that is included in the video.

The wedding videography industry for example is relatively young and there is a huge variation in the way people operate. You could easily find your wedding day turned into a movie set as your videographer orders guests where to stand and how to ‘act’ for the camera. In our experience, event videography should be non-obtrusive to ensure material captured is genuinely natural and spontaneous.

If you can arrange to meet the videographer in person to assess their professionalism, interest and commitment to producing your film project. This is also the best time to ask questions about their experience, working methods and what is included in the price (see separate notes). If a meeting in person isn’t possible due to distance or timing, then you should at least have a chat over the phone.

Preliminary Questions:-
Are you the person who will be videotaping my wedding?
Will you have an assistant or other videographer with you on the day of my wedding?
Are you familiar with our ceremony and reception location?
(If No to above) Do you visit the ceremony and reception sites before the actual wedding date?
What is your style of video production? Documentary or cinematic?

How many years of experience do you have as a videographer?
Approximately how many wedding videos have you videotaped?

Cost Questions:-

What type of packages do you offer
Can you add in a photo montage, if so, what is the cost?
Does the package include titles for the video, if not, can it be added, and at what cost?
How many hours does this package include?
How is overtime calculated?
How much are additional copies?
How many cameras & operators?
Does the price include full editing?
How many hours attendance is included?
What sort of preparatory planning is provided?
Are ceremonies and speeches filmed in full?
Are video messages or interviews allowed?
Do they offer a choice of music?
How long will the finished film be?
Exactly how will be DVD be presented?
How many copies of the DVD are supplied?
Do they include highlights of the event?
Are travel costs included?
Do they have public liability & professional indemnity insurance?
Is VAT included?
What is your payment policy?
What is your cancellation policy
Do you offer a money back guarantee?

Equipment
What format with the film be in? (e.g. 4:3 PAL, 16:9 Widescreen)
What type of equipment do you use?
Do you bring back up equipment with you to the wedding?
Do you have a wireless microphone?
Do you have liability insurance?

Most importantly on the day enjoy yourself and let the wedding videographer do his job.  Hopefully you did your research and selected a good one – so trust him and try to forget that he is there and enjoy your wedding day. If you selected a wedding castle you will have a magnificent back drop for your wedding video.  We hope you have a fantastic castle wedding.

 

 

A Bride’s Emergency Kit

Monday, April 20th, 2009

Wedding Day Emergency Kit

It acts as a stress-buster and enables you to calmly deal with unexpected situations. Knowing that are prepared for any  unforeseen disasters at your french wedding will help you relax. Hopefully no matter what arises, you’re bound to have something in your kit that can deal with it!

Despite checking and double-checking everything…twice and military-like planning like in Mission Impossible everything…twice, problems can  will arise on your wedding day and even possibly at a french wedding. However, being prepared with a [spin]|bride’s[/spin] emergency kit will mean that whatever happens at your french wedding, you will be ready for it and you can carry on with your special day with out getting flustered.  

In simple terms, you don’t carry it all with you during the day! Have essentials like lipstick and tissues, close to hand in a small handbag or maybe in your bridesmaid’s/mother’s bag.   The rest should be kept somewhere accessible such as in your locked bedroom if you have accommodation at your wedding reception, or hidden behind a screen or under a clothed table if you are in marquee. Just make sure that your key assistants like your bridesmaids or immediate family know where it is in case of an emergency! 

Keep all items in a spacious box, bag or basket so it’s easy to find everything at a simple glance and you don’t have to rummage around.

Just in case your maid-of-honor prefers boy watching to boy scouting, you could either ask someone to help you put this bridal emergency kit together, or pull it together yourself or as a last resort delegate it to your wedding planner.  If she is going to be there for the entire day, drop her an email and check that she has all of these things in her kit and tick it off.  Especially on a destination wedding, if she has it covered you or your bridesmaid do not want to have to worry over it.

Your kit should include the following:-

Attire
‘throwaway’ garter.
clear nail polish for runs in hose
earring backs
emergency buttons
flat shoes or ballet slippers (if necessary)
iron
tights/pantyhose (extras in case anything happened)
safety pins
masking tape (last-minute ripped hems)
small sewing kit, including thread for all dresses, wedding party

Beauty/Grooming
dusting powder for before pictures are taken,
hair spray, brush, barrettes and/or bobby pins
hand lotion, handi-wipes
kleenex
makeup
perfume
Nail polish in shade worn, & remover
small hand towel
toothbrush and toothpaste

Health
antacid
antihistamine, cold remedy
any prescription medications
aspirin, Tylenol, or Advil
plasters/bandaids
hard sweets (better than medicinal scent or cough-drops)
smelling salts
tampons, pads
sun tan lotion (if significant activities will be outdoors)

Miscellaneous
directions to reception – extra copies
phone numbers of all service folks
small flashlight
spare change for phone
something to drink, like a bottle of water (particularly useful for lengthy photo sessions)

No Bridezillas Allowed

Sunday, April 19th, 2009

Bridezillas are never attracitve

There is an epidemic that is sweeping the country and plaguing recently betrothed women. It is infinitely nasty.  Symptoms include bouts of selfishness, controlling behaviour, mood swings and compulsive meticulousness. Its effect can last from a few short days to many months. 

Where the totally unexpected happens, try and stay calm – the following stress management tips may help you escape the dreaded Bridezilla Syndrome.  Try to do whatever you can to avoid crying uncontrollably before your wedding as it will not help your wedding photography. 

Evading Bridzilla Syndrome will also help preserve your judgment and wisdom and allow you to enjoy your special day.

The following stress management should help you escape the dreaded Bridezilla Syndrome.

1. Treat yourself and loved ones
Take time out from the planning to relieve the wedding pressure. Treat yourself to a massage or arrange to meet friends for a coffee. Arrange a date and remind yourselves of why you’re getting married.

2. Maintain a sense of humour
It’s best just to laugh off comments and not worry about people’s perceptions of what you should or shouldn’t do. Leading up to and on your wedding day, things can and often do, go awry just go with it. Make the best out of a situation and enjoy yourself.

3. Talk to your groom about his involvement
Some grooms like to be involved in the decision making processes that surround a wedding. Some just want to turn up on the day. This enables you both to know where you are in terms of the planning process from the onset.

4. Accept you can not control everything

Get a wedding planner to help with the fine detail in planning your french wedding. Wedding planners do the job for a living and will ease your worries without taking over. 
There are probably several people you know who would love to help you. and get the to  carry out some minor tasks. 

5. Keep everything in  perspective
It’s all too easy to get bogged down with the hundreds of details surrounding a wedding stress and panic take over. While there is no doubt that your wedding day is an incredibly important day in your life, it is just one day.

6. Dont sweat the small stuff too much

A year down the line, details like the colour of the tasssels on the order of service and the colour of the aisle runner really won’t matter and will have been forgotten.

7. A daily ‘wedding talk’ ban may save your sanity
Set yourself a time, say immediately after dinner after which there is to be no more wedding talk. This should happen on a daily basis!

Do not turn into a Bridezilla at your wedding in France.  It spoils your french wedding photography.

Inspiration Boards – Your Secret Weapon

Saturday, March 21st, 2009

wedding inspiration boad

For those of you unfamiliar with the concept, an inspiration board is a sort of collage that embodies the feeling and tone of your wedding. It is, just as the name implies, the inspiration for your wedding.  Also known as wedding story boards and mood boards, an inspiration board is basically a collage of pictures that helps you pull together color schemes, decorating ideas and other wedding details. You can show your board to your florist, baker, photographer and/or wedding coordinator to help them understand the look and feel you want your wedding to evoke.

Brides snip inspiring photos from wedding magazines and surf the net sometimes for years before their big day.   Your inspiration board is simply all of the ideas, and photos that inspire your wedding. Whether its your dress, cake, table settings, or flowers, its a collage of all the wedding images you love.  For a french wedding google google images for wedding in France, castle wedding and chateau wedding.

Wedding inspiration boards (also called a story or mood board, but let’s be honest – it’s a collage. Sheesh!) are a growing trend. Show your friends and family if you want their input or keep it private or anonymously published on the net if you do not.  Displaying it on your office wall, for example, will undoubtedly invite suggestions from your work colleagues.

You may miss the overall effect when you get down to the nitty-gritty of every fine detail. If you include pictures of everything from food to flowers to dresses to lighting, you’ll have a better idea of what your guests will see on your wedding day, when all of a sudden they walk in and see it all put together. And, as you will know how all of your different wedding elements come together ahead of time thanks to your inspiration board, it will be fabulous on your wedding day.

As you are making decisions it really helps to have a visual reminder of all your thoughts right in front of you. You can create it in Photoshop or a similar layout program or it can be real on a bulletin board o a piece of foam. Swatches, photos, even notes you’ve jotted down can be displayed all in one place, and changed around as you change your mind.

They can consist of dresses, bouquets, shoes, favours, placecards, receptions, programs, invitations. Create your board using pictures from magazines, websites or personal photographs. You name it, you can include it. Wedding Inspiration boards are also a great way to express your wedding ideas and vision to the many vendors who will participate in your wedding.     Scan images from wedding magazines and brochures.  Any wedding vendor you deal with will be delighted to see that you have an inspiration board. 

An inspiration board also helps you stay focused and avoid purchases that do not fit well into your overall vision.

 You can create them easily online without any graphics programes or knowledge.

Do not be intimidated into thinking you need a fancy program like Photoshop to make an inspiration board.

  Remember pictures speak a thousand words.  Our bilingual french wedding planner says most brides having a destination wedding have an inspiration board.